Street Approach Is Simple... Just Be A F*cking Gentleman!
Over the weekend, a CNN segment discussing the latest topic of street harassment/ catcalling went viral and Steve Santagati, "author and dating expert" (yup in quotations) made a complete fool of himself while Amanda Seales defended women walking streets all across the globe and explained, frankly, ladies don't like it and the shit needs to stop, the end.
Meanwhile, the misogyny that came out of Santagati's mouth is so upsetting I don't think I can get into all the points this fool made but according to him we should carry a gun and if we live in New York City, relocate.
After watching the clip I just began to hope and pray that the amount of men in this world that actually respect and have a desire to protect women, out number the amount of fools like this douche bag.
When it comes to approaching a lady in the street that you think is attractive, it's all pretty simple. Be polite, be respectful, be a gentleman.
DO NOT call her by anything that is not her name or "miss." So no "ay redbone, bubble butt, nike sweatsuit, damnnnnnnnnnn!" or any other insolent phrase.
DO NOT I repeat DO NOT touch her in any way shape or form... unless it's to shake her hand. Nothing pisses me off more or feels more intruding than a man grabbing my arm, my hand, OR MY HAIR... yes it has happened! What if I have EBOLA symptoms??!!! NOW YOU GOT EBOLA... yup that's it, you're going into quarantine... what innocent young women you gonna grab on now?
And the worst... DO NOT TELL HER TO F*CKING SMILE! What if her dog just died? What if she just lost her job? What if she's just having a shitty ass day? What if a "resting bitch face" is the only way she knows to keep all the crazies roaming the streets (especially in NYC) at bay. Why according to you should she smile?... Because in your eyes she's an attractive woman and good god what reason could she have to not be smiling. Maybe she simply just doesn't want to and that is e-fucking-nough! (clearly, this one really grinds my gears).
Another similar phrase that I guess doesn't fall under harassment, but just simply perplexes me is, "you're too pretty to be single?" WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?!!!! Does my relationship status simply rely on my prettiness? I could be single because I'm batshit crazy for all you know or it could be because I choose to be... I'm open to any defense of this phrase because it truly leaves me stumped on it's rationale so feel free to go off in the comment section.
Okay that's enough of this rant... I can see fellas revving up to accuse me of man-hate. I swear I love men (especially chocolate ones... #hiIdris) just not gross douches... approach a lady like a lady. That is all.
Check out some lovely Twitter action on the topic after the jump.