Get Into Shan Boody!
I fell in a Youtube black hole as one does... and I discovered Shan Boody!
The first video I clicked on: Sex Talk With My Parents.
Like probably most of her first time viewers, I was a bit thrown off with the topics of discussion and was like wait. a. minute! Shan is a clinical sexologist, a sex and love expert that gets deep on multiple topics under the umbrellas of sexuality and relationships and... I couldn’t stop watching. Soon into viewing I came to the conclusion of: Yes! This is a way of talking about sex that should exist, openly, honestly and educational with modern and familiar language. Of course sex is a thing that is usually very intimate and private but almost the entire population takes part in it and shares some of the same experiences, thoughts, and questions. We should be moving away from it being so shunned and taboo of a topic.
Having open conversation about it not only makes sense and I’m sure avoids so many missteps and regrets but also dispels the risqué and shame around a normal, human act (especially for women). Sexual desires are normal and open discussion promotes self discovery and can serve as an act of learning about who you are, feeling comfortable with that and learning to understand others.
Now I won’t be running to talk to my parents about my sex life anytime soon BUT I am encouraged to be less uncomfortable about my sexuality. I think if I had access to something like this when I was younger it would have been so beneficial but still is.
Some note worthy things from Shan Boody’s videos:
1. If you’re figuring out your sexuality, don't feel pressured to commit to an identity of "what you are." Be kind and patient with your self.
2. A great partner (in life and the bedroom) gives you the space to be imperfect, listens and wants to learn.
3. Don't bring your insecurities into the bedroom!
And 4. | Last but not least, my favorite: You can have several soul mates. Some people were meant to be in your life at certain time to serve a purpose that may not be everlasting love but were beautiful and beneficial to your woman/manhood.
So get into Shan Boody because she contagiously inspires confidence and serves great gems at the same time.